I saw this tweet a while ago and thought, anytime someone asks to “pick my brain”, I’m going to link to this tweet:
Friendly reminder to respect people's time??
?? Send an agenda
? Never ask to pick your brain, be specific
?? If you can do it by email don't book a call
? If you can do it by phone don't book a meeting
? No intros without double opt-in
? You're not entitled to a reply pic.twitter.com/ITs5cUZg0F
— Jill Carlson (@_jillruth) April 12, 2018
- Be respectful of people’s time. They don’t owe you an explanation of why they are too busy to meet or speak with you. Respect that they have other commitments and a way of deciding who to meet and when. They don’t owe you a detailed description of their schedule.
- If you need to cancel, give people as much notice as possible. Sometimes stuff happens and appointments get canceled – that’s okay, that’s understandable. Try to give people as much notice as possible because it can mean they can reschedule or fit someone or something else in.
- If you cancel, the other person doesn’t owe you an alternative time. If you cancel and the person is no longer available when you want them to be, you have to accept that, roll with the punches, and go with the flow.
- Don’t try to insert yourself into their schedule and brain, by emailing what advice you wanted. Don’t explain again or provide further details as to why you canceled. What purpose are you trying to serve with that? Does it help the person with whom you’re trying to get time or are you trying to serve yourself?
- Don’t start an email “with all due respect” and proceed to not respect the person’s time.
- If you get a response (and remember, you are not entitled to one), thank them for taking the time.
- Offer your help. When I ask someone for advice or help in some way, I also try to think about how I can help the other person. Can I promote something they are doing? Can I make a connection for them?
There is no hierarchy in my books. If I’m seeking advice from someone who has more experience than I do or that is managing more assets than Pique Ventures manages, I can still offer help or some kind of exchange. I have made investor and entrepreneur introductions for funds much larger than Pique’s because we can all help each other.
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